Hello world, and welcome back to my wild estrogen-fueled musings and rantings lol. last time I wrote about having a partner who is never satisfied over here;  and today I’m back loaded with a question that has, over time, earned me the (unfortunately insulting) title of a woman with ‘feminist’ tendencies lol. Note that I use quotes on the ‘feminist’ I write about here because it is the convoluted version that most modern people wrongly believe to be true, and not the actual dictionary definition of the word.
My pertinent question therefore is this: why is it that most men are scared and/or uncomfortable to listen to women talking about their struggles? I had unknowingly tried to bring sweaty entitled bratssuch subjects up with a partner on quite a few occasions and concerning different sub topics but always ended up being accused of disturbing the peace by trying to challenge the (unchallenged) status quo . I can’t be the only one that’s noticed this phenomenon, and I think the main reason is that our mothers, the gentle, docile angels they are, taught their sons that they are better than their daughters. This gave rise to a generation of men who feel the entitlement like heat on a sunny day in the tropics.
They believe that women are/should be fine with their position and their situation although they know they would not like it one bit if they had to trade places. Any female with contrary opinions, no matter how soft, or bold, or relevant, or niche, is a feminist who was never loved by her father and will grow old and die sad and alone. They feel that they can just rubbish and ignore it until the issue goes away by itself, and that those who are dogs will keep being dogs while their females endure it silently with prayers and discreet family interventions, just like their mothers did.
Some of the mothers actually have a self-loathing that translates into hating all fellow women, and viewing their fellow women,as irrational, evil, parasitic, and generally useless (only useful for bearing sons I guess, so they can be taught to hate women by the very one that gave them life).
coupling;not a feminist's cup of tea lolMaybe this explains why men raised by single mothers tend to be so much better balanced and respectful while those from whole families are spoilt pieces of dung, quite ironically… I can’t really say about single fathers as I personally know and have interacted with very few compared to the mothers, but the few I have known have kids that turned out OK too; a bit better than the whole families again. So this begs the question:have we become so toxic as human beings that our unions generally do more harm than good? Do we paint such a grim picture of living with our spouses that our offspring turn out forever flawed? Maybe arranged marriages from the past (and currently in some setups) were the way to go, or maybe human beings are just not meant to be together and cohabit with the same individual for long periods of time. Besides, look at families where one or both spouses are away on work a lot, besides the cheating here and there by some rotten elements, their unions generally seem to last longer than those who, say, work together or close by.
Men really love pushover women, I suspect more so those that claim they don’t, because while growing up, their fathers were away on some manly duty or other and neglected to teach them to man up, leaving them with their mothers for stretches at a time and showing up every so often to discredit everything she does, right in front of them, which she took graciously because she had no ‘feminist’ tendencies. They half matured and scared of 'feminist' tendenciestherefore grew up with a false sense of security and delusions in plenty of the way things need to be, and when they went out into the world as half-baked adults with seriously underdeveloped emotional control and sense of responsibility, they had to look for women to fill the gap their mothers left, and do all those things they grew up believing were taboo for a man to do. Instead of understanding that the job description they need to fill is for a house help (or nanny in some cases) they believe they should marry a woman and make her into their mother, hence the development of the bizarre trend of normalizing men cheating and having affairs all around regardless of the type of woman they settled down with.
So what’s the point, and what’s the solution? I would love to know because it’s making life rather unpleasant to be honest. While sometimes I feel sorry for these babies in adult skin walking around scared shitless but putting on a brave face, sometimes it just makes me sick to think that they cannot see what’s wrong with them, and will continue (Heaven forbid) to raise sons that are as screwed up as them, alongside the women who placate and enable their very bad behavior.
May the Lord have mercy on us all.
I realize I tend to have a bitter streak in most of my writings and come across as evil, broken, miserable, and cold as ice, and most of the times I really am just that, I have given my all to someone who at best probably saw me as a disposable kitchen item, and over time this has added to my already imperfect nature even more darkness and salt (is salt that bad though?) so take care lest I’m infectious …..