Why is it that some men are scared and/or extremely uncomfortable to listen to women talking about their struggles?
I can’t be the only one that’s noticed this for real, and I think the main reason is that our mothers, the gentle, docile angels, they are, taught their sons that they are better than their daughters.
This gave rise to a generation of men who feel the entitlement like heat on a sunny afternoon. They believe that women are fine with their position and those that aren’t are just idle troublemakers, and their situation is ideal-although they would not like it one bit if they had to trade places.
They think they can just ignore it until the issue goes away by itself, and that those who are dogs will keep being dogs while their females endure it silently with prayers and discreet family interventions, just like their mothers did.
Some of the mothers actually have a self-loathing that translates into hating all fellow women, and viewing themselves as irrational, evil, parasitic, and generally useless (only useful for bearing sons I guess, so they can be taught to hate women by the very ones that give them life and so on and so forth).
Maybe this explains why men raised by single mothers tend to be so much better balanced and respectful while those from whole families are mostly spoilt pieces of dung, quite ironically…
I can’t really say about single fathers, as I personally know very few single fathers compared to single mothers (obviously), but they turned out ok too, generally a bit better than the whole families again.
So this begs the question: have we become so toxic as human beings that our unions generally do more harm than good? Do we paint such a grim picture of living with our spouses that our offspring turn out forever flawed?
May be arranged marriages of the past (and currently still in some setups) were the way to go, or maybe human beings are just not meant to be together and cohabit with the same individual for long periods of time. Besides, look at families where one or both spouses are away at work a lot, besides the cheating here and there by some rotten elements, their unions generally seem to last longer than those who, say, work together or close by. Strange argument, but hey, it’s my observation and an opinion, which I believe I’m free to express.
Another observation I’ve come up with over time is that men really love dumb, pushover women, especially those that claim they don’t, possibly because when growing up, their fathers were away on some manly duty or other and neglected to teach them to man up, leaving them with their mothers and showing up every so often to discredit everything she did or even rough her up a bit right in front of them.
They therefore grew up with a false sense of security and delusions in plenty of the way things ‘need’ to be, and when they went out into the world as half-baked adults with seriously underdeveloped emotional control and sense of responsibility, they had to look for women to fill in the gaps their mothers left so she would do all those things they grew up believing were taboo for a man to do. Instead of understanding that the job description they need to fill is for a house help (or nanny in some cases) they believe they should marry a woman and make her into their mother, hence the development of the bizarre trend of men cheating and having affairs all around.
Because obviously you don’t marry the woman of your dreams-I mean, who does that? You marry a woman you detest, so you can eventually weasel your way out of your home and into some other woman’s arms in the name of ‘pressure at home’ and ‘going through a tough phase’ in which ‘you don’t understand each other’ because ‘things aren’t the way they were in the beginning, when you married’.
I have sadly also come across more than a reasonable number of men who live in absolute total physical filth and are so disorganized they might lose their brains in the mess, and when asked about it, they’ll say things like ‘I’m still looking for a wife’ or ‘the wife has not been here for a while’. Note that the ‘wife’ being talked about here is just a girlfriend working her ass off in the hopes that her contract will be renewed with permanent status, probably not knowing that when this finally happens, all outings, dates, and nights out will stop immediately because, well, who wants to be seen tagging around an actual ‘wife’?
And yet men wonder why so many women are resisting that term and position nowadays lol. It’s the new village idiot position, and to tell the truth, who willingly nominates themselves as such?
So what’s the point, and what’s the solution? I would love to know because it’s making life rather unpleasant to be honest.
While sometimes I feel sorry for these babies in adult skin walking around scared shitless of practically everything but putting on a brave face and talking big, sometimes it just makes me sick to think that they cannot see what’s wrong with them, and will continue on (Heaven forbid) to raise sons that are as screwed up as them.
And no, I’m not even going to talk about that ‘equality’ stuff because that’s the pet peeve that will be in contention until Christ returns to save us all from stupidity or something. Besides, solving that will be for most men like solving world peace for politicians; what else will they do with their time when they can’t create propaganda and push agendas with religion and the likes?
May heaven have mercy on us all.
Until next time, keep it Foxxy, and all the best in your current, or aspiring situation! 😉